Please Don’t Stigmatize Autism
| Cho's great-aunt, who lives in South Korea, said Thursday that because he did not speak much as a child and after the family emigrated to the United States, doctors thought he might be autistic. "Normally sons and mothers talk. There was none of that for them. He was very cold," Kim Yang-soon told AP Television News. "When they went to the United States, they told them it was autism." Neither school officials, who have his educational records, nor police who have his medical records, have mentioned such a diagnosis. Autistic individuals often have difficulty communicating, but such a diagnosis would not necessarily explain his violence. In the frantic search for an explanation for the Virginia Tech rampage last week versions of this blurb from the AP were reprinted widely. It’s unfortunate. Unless better supported, any claim that Cho Seung-Hui may have had autism is idle speculation. To suggest that autism may have been responsible for this tragedy is careless and irresponsible journalism. AP included a disclaimer that autism might not explain Cho’s violence but they very plainly left open the idea that it just might. I don’t know what demons possessed Cho and I don’t think anybody else does either, certainly not AP. When they don’t know what they are talking about they should have the decency to keep their mouths shut. More importantly they should turn off their keyboards. I know this. Autism affects a lot more children than it used to. One of them is my grandson Weston. Weston doesn’t talk much but he is a beautiful and affectionate child who gets a great deal of support from his parents, his therapists, and his church pre-school class. We expect him to start kindergarten this fall. He will need help there too and he will get it. What he doesn’t get at school his parents will see to it that he gets after school. If it is at all possible, and we believe it is entirely possible, Weston will become an emotionally and intellectually mature adult. He will lead a full and rewarding life. That is our dream and our expectation. We are not so naïve as to think it will be easy or inexpensive. Weston’s parents have devoted an extraordinary portion of their time and treasure to their son’s well being already. They have every reason to believe that will have to continue indefinitely. They also need the support and understanding of the community at large. That’s why the casual suggestion that last week’s horror in Virginia may have been the result of autism is so disturbing. Weston’s parents’ worst fear is that he may someday be shunned by his peers because of his autism. That hasn’t happened to date. On the contrary his friends have accepted him as one of their own. That’s the value of the pre-school class. Some of our proudest moments have been watching him play with his cousins. He may not be able to do some things quite as easily as they but he is one of them. Please, please don’t think of autism as something to be frightened of. Understand it is something that happens to a child, not something the child does. Parents of children with autism are careful to say it just like that, “children with autism.” The adjective “autistic” carries a pejorative they would prefer to avoid. And if someday somebody with autism does something terrible, please don’t conclude that people with autism are fiends. There are a great many of them and they need us. We need them too. Until I understood Weston had autism I thought it was rare. If it ever was it isn’t now. If you’ve never had autism in your family don’t rest easy. Nowadays one child in 150 has it and even some of the scientists who have been denying it is epidemic are beginning to think the real number is higher than that. But don’t think the child with autism will grow up to be Cho Seiung-Hui. Think concert pianist and do what you can to make it happen. That’s what we do. |

